Family relations

The 8 th of October

Friendship, Family

• Most parents want their children to share household tasks such as cleaning, meal preparation, or washing up. There are many advantages to having children help with household tasks. Children learn about their role in the family and the importance of helping others. They can see the results of what happens when they do not follow through with their responsibilities. As children become older, they can take on new responsibilities that help them develop a sense of independence and self-reliance.
• An important benefit of children helping with household responsibilities is that it teaches them the skills they will need when they have an apartment or house of their own. If children are given the responsibility for washing the laundry and cleaning the bathroom as they are growing up, they will know how to do these tasks when on their own.
• Although there are many advantages to children helping with family responsibilities, it is often difficult to get cooperative, cheerful help from reluctant children. Communication among all family members is the key to the success of having children help with household tasks. Involve the child in the decision making process. Rather than telling them what they should do, ask them what they would be willing to do. Another option would be to provide them with a list of tasks that need to be completed and have them pick out what they would like to do. Short, once-a-week family meetings are extremely helpful.
• Children have a tremendous need for fairness. If mom, dad or siblings are not helping around the house, it will be difficult to convince the child that they need to be responsible for certain tasks. You can make household responsibilities easier by setting rules for shared spaces of the home. For example, all papers in the living room need to be picked up by bedtime or they will be tossed out. Then, make sure you follow through on the consequences set.
• Avoid blaming and labeling. Try humorous or creative ways to remind children of their responsibilities. For example rather than telling your child he/she is lazy for not picking up clothing left on the floor, ask if clothing is being left for the invisible maid. Remember children are still learning about household responsibilities. Offer praise, thanks, and encouragement…even if the meal your child prepared was a little different than what is normally prepared.
• Finally, don’t force the issue. If the child refuses to fulfill their responsibilities, calmly explain that there will be no friends over, car available, or computer usage until after the work is done. Again, following through on the consequences is key.
• It is safe to say that children’ household activities and responsibilities help them to explore the general world of work, develop helping behaviors, and grow toward independence. Involving children in household tasks provides families an opportunity for communication, problem solving, role modeling, discussion of gender roles, and potential reduction of family stress.

• My Mum’s father is my ………
• My Dad’s mother is my ………
• My Mum’s brother is my ………
• My Dad’s sister is my ………..
• My Mum’s son is my ………..
• My Dad’s daughter is my …….
• Your father and your mother are your …
• Your aunt’s or uncle’s children are your …
• The daughter of your brother or a sister is your …
• The son of your brother or a sister is your …

• My Mum’s father is my ……… (Grandfather)
• My Dad’s mother is my ……… (Grandmother)
• My Mum’s brother is my ……… (Uncle)
• My Dad’s sister is my ……….. (Aunt)
• My Mum’s son is my ……….. (Brother)
• My Dad’s daughter is my ……. (Sister)
• Your father and your mother are your …(parents)
• Your aunt’s or uncle’s children are your …(cousins)
• The daughter of your brother or a sister is your …(niece)
• The son of your brother or a sister is your …(nephew )

Vocabulary

• household task –үй жұмысы
• cleaning - үй тазалау
• meal preparation - тамақ жасау дайындау
• washing up – ыдыс жуу
• advantage - артықшылық преимущество
• responsibility – міндеттілік, жауапкершілік
• self-reliance – өзіне өзі сенімді болу
• independence - тәуелсіз
• benefit – пайда
• skill - қабілет
• laundry - кір жуу
• cooperative – біріккен
• reluctant –қарсылық көрсету
• to be responsible - жауапты болу
• to share - бөлу
• consequence - жағдай, последствие
• blaming – порицание, осуждение
• labeling – прикрепление ярлыка
• gender - жыныс

• Exercise 2. Complete the sentences from the text.
• 1. Children can see the results of what happens when … .
• 2. As children become older, … .
• 3. You can make household responsibilities easier … .
• 4. Rather than telling your child he/she is lazy for not picking up clothing left on the floor, … .
• 5. If the child refuses to fulfill their responsibilities, … .

Some new proverbs for you. Look and match them!

A man is known…

buy friendship

Money can’t…

by the company he keeps

A true friend…

is to be one

The only way to have a friend…

is the medicine of life

• Exercise 1. Are the statements true or false?
• 1. Most parents don’t want their children to share household tasks such as cleaning, meal preparation, or washing up.
• 2. Children learn about their role in the family and the importance of helping others.
• 3. Communication among all family members is the key to the success of having children help with household tasks.
• 4. If mom, dad or siblings are not helping around the house, it will be difficult to convince the child that they need to be responsible for certain tasks.
• 5. Involving children in household tasks provides families an opportunity for communication, problem solving, role modeling, discussion of gender roles, and potential reduction of family stress.

Home work

• With friend you have a lot of fun. A friend will never let you down. You’ll tell your secrets to your friend, And he will always understand.
• A friend is always there for you, And you can talk your problems through And now the most important thing, He’ll be with you through thick and thin.
• But if your friend just wants some fun And when you need him-lets you down And doesn’t give a helping hand, That is a fair-weather friend.
• He’ll stand by you to the end – And then you call that one your friend