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Do love And Friendship Still Make The World Go Round?

Problem Presentation.

Love is remarkably common. According to a 2016 survey, about one in ten of us describe ourselves as madly in love and only one in five of the 1000 people interviewed said they were ‘ not really in love’. So, what is this feeling called love? How are people attracted to each other?

Some people are attracted to a business suit or a doctor’s uniform, others by small feet, or a certain kind of smile. Her voice, the way he laughs, her spontaneity, his patience, her energy, his sense of humour, her interests, his dreams, her athletic ability. Whatever the explanation for how and why we fall in love, one thing is clear: Nature has made the whole process as wonderful and as addictive as possible. Perhaps that’s why so many of us are at least a little bit ‘ in love’ most of the time.

The Words We Need.

• Adoration
• Bride
• Friendship
• Nature
• Engagement
• Eternal love
• Bridegroom
• Mutual love
• Obsession
• Platonic love
• Romance
• Sympathy

• Adopt
• Attract
• Court
• Divorced
• Fail
• Inherit
• Jealous
• Separated
• Single

• Be one in a million
• Be brokenhearted
• Be head over
• Heels in love
• Date smb
• Fall in love with
• Marry smb
• Go out with smb
• Promise the moo n

Focusing On The Vocabulary

Text.

Read the tale and decide what kind of relationship is described by the author. Can this allegory be applied to human beings? Do you know any other stories of this kind?

OLE AND TRUFA

On the top of the tree which had lost all its other leaves, two still remained. One leaf was named Ole and the other, Trufa. Ole and Trufa both hung from one twig. Since they were at the very tip of the tree they received lots of sunlight. For some reason unknown to Ole and Trufa, they had survived at the rains, all the cold nights and winds, and still clung to the tip of the twig, who knows the reason one leaf falls and another remains? But Ole and Trufa believed the answer lay in the great love they bore one another. Ole was slightly bigger than Trufa and a few days older, but Trufa was prettier and more delicate. One leaf can do little for another when the wind blows, the rain pours, or the hail begins to fall.It even happens in summer that a leaf is torn loose. But when autumn and winter come nothing can be done. Still, Ole encouraged Trufa at every opportunity. During the worst storms when the thunder clapped, the lightning flashed, and the wind tore off not only leaves, but even whole branches, Ole pleaded with Trufa: “ hang on Trufa! Hang on with all your might!” At times during cold and stormy nights, Trufa would complain: “ My time has come, Ole, but you hang on!” “What for?” Ole asked. “ Without you, my life is senseless. If you fall, I’ll fall with you.” “ No, Ole, don’t do it! So long as a leaf can stay up it mustn’t go…” “ It all depends if you stay with me,” Ole replied. “ By day I look at you and admire your beauty. At night I sense your fragrance. But the only leaf on the tree? No, never!” “ Ole, your words are so sweet but they’re not true,” Trufa said.” You know very well that I’m no longer pretty. Look how wrinkled I am! All my juices have dried out and I’m ashamed before the birds. They look at me with such a pity. At times it seems to me they’re laughing at how shriveled I’ve become. I’ve lost everything, but one thing is still left for me- my love for you.” ”Isn’t that enough?” Of all our powers love is the highest. The finest,” Ole said. “So long as we love each other we remain here, and no wind, rain or storm can destroy us. I’ll tell you something, Trufa – I never loved you as much as I love you now.” ”Why, Ole? Why? I’m all yellow.” “Who says green is pretty and yellow is not? All colours are equally handsome.” And just as Ole spoke these words, that which Trufa had feared all these months, happened – a wind came up and tore Ole from the twig. Trufa began to tremble and flutter until it seemed that she would soon be torn away, but she held fast. She saw Ole fall and sway in the air and she called him in leafy language: “Ole! Come back! Ole! Ole! But before she could even finish Ole vanished from sight. He blended in with the other leaves on the ground and Trufa was left all alone on the tree. So long as it was still day, Trufa managed somehow to endure her grief. But when it grew dark and cold and a piercing rain began to fall, she sank into despair, somehow she felt that the blame for all the leafy misfortunes lay with the tree, the trunk with all its mighty limbs. Leaves fell but the trunk stood tall, thick and firmly rooted in the ground. No wind, rain or hail could upset it. What did it matter to a tree which probably lived forever what would become of a leaf? To Trufa, the trunk was a kind of God. It covered itself with leaves for a few months, then it shook them off. It nourished them with its sap for as long as it pleased, then it let them die of thirst .

Trufa pleaded with the tree to give her back Ole and to make it summer again, but the tree didn’t heed, or refused to heed, her prayers…Trufa didn’t think a night could be so long as this one – so dark, so frosty. She spoke to Ole and hoped for an answer, but Ole was silent and gave no sign of his presence. Trufa said to the tree:” Since you have taken Ole from me – take me too”. But even this prayer the tree didn’t acknowledge. After a while, Trufa dozed off. This wasn’t sleep but a strange languor. Trufa awoke and to her amazement found that she was no longer hanging on the tree. The wind had blown her down while she was asleep. This was different from the way she used to feel when she awoke on the tree with sunrise. All her fears and anxieties had now vanished. The awakening also brought with it an awareness she had never had before. She knew now that she wasn’t just a leaf that depended on every whim of the wind, but that she was a part of the universe. She no longer was small nor weak nor transient, but a part of eternity. Though some mysterious force, Trufa understood the miracle of her molecules, atoms, protons and electrons – the enormous energy she represented and the divine plan of which she was a part. Next to her lay Ole and they greeted each other with a love they hadn’t been aware of before. This wasn’t a love that depended on chance or caprice, but a love as mighty and eternal as the universe itself. That which they had feared all the days and nights between April and November turned out to be not death but redemption. A breeze came and lifted Ole and Trufa in the air and they soared with the bliss.

What is your impression of the story? Do you believe in love as mighty and eternal as the universe itself? If “yes”, give your grounds, if “no” give your reasons,

Lexical chart What is love

Exercise 1 Match the idioms on the left with their definitions on the right.

• Go out with someone

• See someone for a first time

2. Fall in love with someone

b. Perfect life partner

3. Set eyes on someone

c. Be crazy, insane

4. Be nuts

d Have a romance with someone

5. Ask for somebody’s hands

6. Soul mate

e. Fall deeply and suddenly in love

f. Be very sad

7. Hit it off with someone

g. Ask for permission to marry someone

8. Promise the moon

h. Quickly become good friends with someone

9. Fall head over heels in love

i. Begin to love very much

10. Be brokenhearted

j. Have feelings of great happiness and excitement usually caused by being in love

11. Stars in one’s eyes

k. Promise someone something

Exercise 2 Are the speaker’s feelings good or bad? Put the sentences in the correct box .

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We can’t get along with

She says I’m one in a million

I’m getting crazy mad at him

I’m head over heels in love

My heart is broken

I’m disappointed

He says I look like a million dollars

He broke our engagement

She has got stars in her eyes

Exercise 3 Are you a hopeless romantic – willing to do anything for your love? Or are you a down-to-earth realist, who accept life with or without love? Work in pairs and interview each other using Love Test below. Take it in turns to interview each other. One student asks questions, the other chooses answers from the phrases in the list. There is a special scoring system below .

SCORING

For questions 2,4,6,8,10 score as follows:

Strong agreement-1

Mild agreement -2

Indecision Indecision Indecision -3

Mild disagreement-4

Strong disagreement-5

Strong agreement

Of course I would

I certainly would

Mild agreement

I think I would

I might

I might consider it

I think so

Indecision

I don’t know

I can’t decide

I can’t make up my mind

I’m not sure

For questions 1,3,5,7,9 score as follows :

Strong agreement-5

Mild agreement -4

Indecision-3

Mild disagreement-2

Strong disagreement-1

Mild disagreement

Probably not

I don’t think so

I doubt it

Strong disagreement

Never in a million years

Not on your life

Not (ever)if you paid me

Not for all the tea in China

• You have a steady partner. Along comes a really attractive person. Could you fall in love with someone else?

Score _____________

2. Would you consider marrying someone from a very different background to your own?

Score_______________

3. Would you consider writing off to a computer dating firm?

Score _____________

4. Do you believe that marriage is for life?

Score _____________

5. Would you consider getting married and not having children?

Score _____________

6. Would you say “no” to someone you like very much because you thought someone better might come along?

Score _____________

7. If the person you love died, would you still consider life worth living.

Score _____________

To find out how romantic you are, look at the Love Test Scores below.

10-20: you are a hopeless romantic

21-39: you have both romantic and realistic tendencies.

40-50: you are a dry realis t .

8. Could you fall in love with someone whom you don’t find physically attractive?

Score _____________

9. Do you agree that “Men are interested in women for one reason and one reason only”?

Score _____________

10. Imagine that you have very little money. Would you consider marrying someone who also had very little money?

Score _____________

Exercise 4 Choose the right card. With a partner choose a greeting card for each situation below .

1. I’m glad everything turned out so well…

2. It’s hard for me to say it but I’m really fond of you…

3. I think I have fallen in love…

4. Your silence is driving me crazy!

a. Kate is dating Alex, a student at the same college. After about five dates, she realized that she liked Alex a lot. Kate doesn’t show her feelings very easily, so she sent him this card to express how she feels.

b. Olga arranged a blind date for her best friend Jill. Jill didn’t really want to go to the date, but she finally agreed. The next day she called Olga and said she had a great time and liked the guy. Olga sent her this card.

c. Simon and Lottie have known each other for two years. Last night, they finally went on a date and they both had a fantastic time. To express his deep feelings for Lottie, Simon sent her this card the next day.

d. Barry and Rachel have been dating for about two years. Recently, they had a big fight, and Rachel won’t call him back. Barry sent her this card.

Blind date is a date between two people who haven’t met before.

For an Extra Challenge: after the matching activity, on a separate sheet of paper write a personal note for the inside of each card. Make a card for somebody you love?

Exercise 5 who do you turn to in stressful times? Your family, your partner, a good friend or all the three? Probably, your oldest friend?

Friends can be a source of stress. But they can also be great support during stressful times. Research has shown that women with at least one good friend in whom they can confide were 90 per cent less likely to become depressed than those women without close friend. It is the quality of friends, not the quantity that’s important here. And a good friend should be appreciated like a priceless jewel.

Do you have a good friend? How do you appreciate her/him? How does she/he help you in stressful situations?

Read the tips how to maintain a true friendship: 1. Let him win an argument occasionally. Be the first to apologize. 2. Don’t say anything behind his back that you wouldn’t say to his face. Listen! 3. Be prepared to share in a friend’s failure. 4. Accept him for who he is.

Which of the tips do you follow? Add some more tips.

Exercise 6 look at the recipe for a happy friendship and discuss these questions in small groups.

• Which do you think the most important ingredients are? Why? Agree on their order of importance starting with the most important.
• What other ingredients for a happy friendship can you think of?

FOR A HAPPY FRIENDSHA RECIPE IP.

• Make time to see your best friend.
• Listen to your friend’s problems.
• Don’t leave your friend out of new friendships, hobbies or interests.
• Don’t talk about your friend to other people. She/he will be very hurt when she/he finds out what you’ve been saying.
• Learn to apologize. It’s important that you should be able to admit that you are wrong.
• Always give your friend time to be alone if she/he wants it.

Exercise 7 read the song yesterday by the BEATLES and say how the singer feels. What happened to make him feel like this? Yesterday

Yesterday, All my troubles seemed so far away Now it looks as though they're here to stay Oh, I believe in yesterday Suddenly, I'm not half the man I used to be There's a shadow hanging over me Oh, yesterday came suddenly Why she had to go I don't know, She wouldn't say I said something wrong, Now I long for yesterday Yesterday, Love was such an easy game to play Now I need a place to hide away Oh, I believe in yesterday

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Yesterday

Why she had to go I don't know, She wouldn't say I said something wrong, Now I long for yesterday Yesterday, Love was such an easy game to play Now I need a place to hide away Oh, I believe in yesterday

IV THINKING AND DISCUSSING

Text 1 Read the text and say what signs of love are described in the extract.

Why him? Why her?

Almost everybody knows that infatuation, or falling in love feels like. Those sleepless nights and restless days. You daydream during class or busing meetings, forget your coat, drive past your house, sit by the phone, or plan what you will say-obsessed, waiting for the next meeting with him or her. You take foolish risks, say stupid things, laugh too hard, walk at dawn and are generally oblivious to the rest of the world. Why do we fall in love with Ray as opposed to Bill, Sue instead of Cecilia? Why him? Why her? “The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing of”, wrote philosopher Blaise Pascal. Scientists can, however, provide some reasonable explanations for this hurricane of emotion.

From The Anatomy of Love by Helen Fisher.

What is your explanation why people fa ll in love with this or that person?

Text 2 read the introduction to the text “What Does Love Mean?” and the poem and make your own conclusion.

What Does Love Mean

What do you first think of when you hear the word “love”? Having a girlfriend or a boyfriend? There are many kinds of love. Love between parents and children, love within families, between friends, for example. When a baby is born, the parents love it. How do they show this? They feed it, keep it warm, keep it away from danger. This is love. Caring for someone, being helpful, being friendly, being tolerant. Everybody needs love. This song is about people who need love. But ...

SYMPATHY

Now when you climb into your bed tonight,

And when you lock and bold the door,

Just think of those out in the cold and dark

Cause there’s not enough love to go round

And sympathy is what we need my friend,

And sympathy is what we need my friend,

Cause there’s not enough love to go round

No, there’s not enough love to go round.

Now half the world buns the other half,

And half the world has all the food,

And half the world lies down and quietly starves

Cause there’s not enough love to go round.

And sympathy is what we need my friend.

Do you agree with verse three? Discuss in groups if there are some people” those out in the cold and dark” and if we can do something to help them. If someone loved or liked everyone else, would the world be better?

Text 3 read the description of a meeting between a man and a woman at a party. The writer believes that romantic love can be found in all cultures. Do you agree? Why or why not?

THIS THING CALLED LOVE

A man and a woman are at a party. They are strangers. Suddenly, the woman sees the man across the room. He is talking to a couple of friends. She notices that he has a nice smile. She moves to be in his line of vision and glances at him to see if he has noticed her. He has. Their eyes meet for a second. She begins talking to the people near her, waiting to see if he will approach. He does. He walks over to look at picture on the wall hear where she is standing. Their eyes meet again, this time foe a little longer, and they smile in recognition. She moves over to where he is standing and comments on the painting. He agrees with her comment, and they smile with greater warmth. They look at each other a little longer than normal. She smiles brightly, turns her head, and tosses her hair. They find a place to sit away from the crowd. As they talk, he edges closer to her. He is excited and a little nervous. The pupils of his eyes widen. They talk as if no one else is in the room. Each tries to present his or her best self. However, they reveal more about themselves than they normally do on first meeting someone. Gradually, they begin to mirror each other’s gestures. When she turns her head, he turns his head. When he takes a drink, she takes a drink. At home after the party, each feels hopeful yet uncertain. They know that although they feel excited and full of hope, love fails many more times than it succeeds. It is the same all over the world. Other couples are falling in love in Finland and Patagonia. They are courting in Madagascar and the Philippines. Despite their different culture, all these courting couples would understand the hope and excitement that this couple feels . From The Anatomy of Love by Helen Fisher.

What are your ideas about how love is born? Do you believe in love at first sight?

Text 4 Read three points of view on friendship and aspects of friendship . Share your points of view and discuss your reactions.

Speaker 1: I think that friendship is a unique chemistry that happens between two people and a lot of people say they’ve got best friends, but I actually wonder how many people do have a best friend in the real sense of word. I have two best friends: one works in the theatre, and one is a sort of entrepreneur: and we see each other about three or four times a year. But I wouldn’t call that being a best friend, that is a close friend. I think my best friend, without getting too soppy, is my wife. She is my total best friend, I can discuss anything with her and she can pick up on feeling that I’ve got inside me whereas my two best chums can never do that unless I’m showing an expression on my face. Then they’ll say,”Oh, what’s the matter, Campbell?”, but my wife… I can walk into a room and she knows exactly what kind of mood I’m in and that is a best friend.

Speaker 2: I also feel that a best friend is really someone who can understand. I’ve kept in touch with four friends from schooldays and we don’t see each other very often. One of them or two I see perhaps once a year. But the thing about it is when we do see other it’s as if there’s been no time spent apart and we’re able just to slip into our relationship and a kind of feeling that we’ve always had. It’s like wearing a pair of shoes that you’ve had for a long time, it’s comfortable, it’s safe and it’s warm, and it’s easy .

Speaker 3: I mean I’ve had friends since childhood and we… we’re essential to each other. We reflect each other’s journey through life and changes that we’ve gone through. I think there’s a difference with men and women. I think sometimes for some women friendship is easier, I think often friendship between men and women is difficult just because it does happen that men are less used to expressing their emotions. It’s much harder I think sometimes for men to confide their failures. I think a lot of the trust and the sort of intimacy between women is to do with insecurities and all those things that you share. I’ve felt immensely privileged actually to have a number of very close friends and for me it’s in terms of human relationship I think I value it about everything.

Text 5 read text “Who Needs Friends Like This?” and answer the questions :

• How would you feel about Jack if you were his friend?
• What would you advise the author to do about Jack?
• What are some of the things you expect your friends do for you?
• What are some of the things you are prepared to do for them?

Who Needs Friends Like This?

Jack used to be my best friend. At least I thought he was. But then he started borrowing money from me and never paying it back. Then he stole my girlfriend away from me. Of course I was very upset, but I tried to be tolerant. After that I heard he was spreading stories about me saying I was dishonest and unreliable. Of course he denied it all, so I decided to forgive and forget. But the worst thing was when he borrowed my new car and smashed it up! That was the last straw! I mean after all with friends like that, who needs ENEMIES?

Text 6 read the discussion of the movie TITANIC. Whose opinion do you share? Do you find Rose and Jack’s love believable?

FALLINF IN LOVE ON THE TITANIC

Caroline: this next film? Titanic, just fascinated me. James Cameron. The director of the science fiction THE TERMINATOR AND ALIEN, made a beautiful, gripping love story.

Paul: It’s gripping only if you’re a teenager, Caroline.

Caroline: I disagree. I think Titanic is the most universally appealing romance since Gone With The Wind, here’s a story that follows two young people from very different background. Jack Dawson, a free spirit alone in the world, with no money, encounters Rose Dewitt Bukater a member of Philadelphia’s upper class.

Paul: the dialogue is awful, and it’s a familiar tale: a poor boy meets a rich girl.

Caroline: I disagree. Rose’s father has left the family nothing but debts. To survive, Rose’s mother has arranged for her to marry Cal Hockley, a snob, a pain, a bore, who will one day inherit millions

Paul: I’ve heard it all before, Caroline.

Caroline: But the way Rose and Jack run into each other is romantic and touching. Feeling trapped by her engagement to Cal and a life that is just a series of parties, Rose decides to throw herself into the sea. Jack goes after her and rescues her from certain suicide .

Paul: Yes, another rich girl is saved!

Caroline: But Jack does it so well. He has the delicacy, the imagination, the strength to save her.

Paul: And what is his reward? Dinner with the family, fiance and friends. The scene seemed unnatural to me.

Caroline: But what about that plain-speaking American character, Molly Brown. She was amusing at the dinner. She became fond of Jack who managed to get along well with that upper-class group.

Paul: Molly Brown? I didn’t believe her. She was a Hollywood device. The wealthy woman who, it turns out, wasn’t born rich, and of course had a heart gold.

Caroline: I found her believable. And the noble meeting of Rose and Jack which leads to their falling in love – to me that’s possible. Opposite attract. They see in the other person something that’s missing in themselves. In a short time, they are crazy about each other, and their romance threatens Rose’s engagement to Cal. I feel lucky to have seen this dramatic love story.

Can you fall in love with someone who has different interests, different values and different backgrounds?

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Text 7 Have you ever met interesting people on the Internet? Do you believe in Cyber-romance? Read the story about two people who met real love on the Internet.

Philadelphia, PA, USA. Until recently, Figen Gencosmanoglu 36, was living in Trabzon, a small town in Turkey. Dan Haigh, 42, was in Philadelphia. Both were in the same boat – divorced and lonely. They met on the Internet and started e-mailing each other. Figen told Dan all her secrets. “He was so far away, he seemed unreal,” she says. “It was like talking to an advice column, but I knew we had lot in common.” Dan was soon e-mailing Figen three times a day-morning, noon and night. Before long, he wrote, “I’m coming to Turkey!” he hadn’t even seen a picture of her.

Meanwhile, Figen got a photo of Dan in the mail. It took ages for her to open the envelope. She put it on her heart and repeated, “Oh, God, please God.” She was already madly in love with him and didn’t want to be disappointed by the photo. She was not.

A month later, Dan made the long and expensive trip to Trabzon, her first trip outside U.S. He was nervous about the meeting. On the plane, his mother’s words echoed in his head.” What are you doing?” in Turkey, Figen was on edge too. “Aren’t there any American women for him?” her parents said. But when Figen and Dan set eyes on each other, they knew it was the real thing.

Dan researched Turkish marriage customs, and several months later went ba you begin as friends. You can really listen to other peck to Turkey with his parents and formally asked for Figen’s hand. “When you meet on the Internet, you begin as friends. You can really listen to other people. You have time to think about their words and to read between the lines,” says Figen, now living happily with Dan near Philadelphia

Text 8 A great number of people ask marriage bureaus to find partners for them. What are the reasons for the marriage bureaus popularity? What kind of story would you expect from the title? Compare your predictions with your classmate’s before you read Stephen Makler’s story.

THE PERFECT MATCH

I walked into the office and shook hands with a smiling man named Mr. Bleaucher. He was dressed very well, compared to me. He pulled out a few sheets from among a pile of papers.

“ I’m sure you’ll be very pleased with her”, he said. “She was picked by our compatibility computer out of over one hundred ten million eligible women in the United States. We categorize by race, religion, ethnic and regional background…”

I sat there interestedly, wishing I had taken a shower before I came. It was a very nice office but the chair wasn’t too comfortable.

“ And now…” he said. He flung open the door to the next room like a magician. I was expecting a rabbit but I got a surprise.

Really she was pretty. “Mr. Walker, this is Miss Dunfield of Laughing Lake, Montana. Miss Dunfield, this is Mr. Walker of New York.”

“ Really Frank. Franklin is something else again,” I said. I was a little nervous. She was pretty, you see.-Mr. Bleaucher left and we were able to talk.

“ Hello.”

“ Hello,” she said.

“ I’m … I’m very pleased with the choice,” I said. Maybe she didn’t like being called a choice. “I mean-I’m glad the way the things turned like out.” She smiled. She had a nice smile. Good teeth.

“ Thank you,” she said. “So am I”. She was shy. ‘I’m thirty one,” I blurted out. “Yes, I know” she said. “It’s all on the cards.” It seemed like the conversation was about over. Everything was on the cards. So there wasn’t really much to talk about.

“ How about children?” she said. “It’s down on the file under ‘Future Planning ”.

That one there.” I suddenly noticed the pile of paper in my hand. On the first was glued an IBM card with important information about her. I guessed the thing she was holding must be the same thing on me. I began looking through it and so did she. The turning pages made a lot of noise. It said she liked classical music.( That was in ‘ Preferences and Habits’.) “You like classical music?” I asked her. “Well… better than anything else. I also have the complete collection of Frankie Lane records.” “He was a great old singer.” I agreed. I went on looking through the file and so did she. She liked books, football sitting near the front in movies, sleeping with the window closed, dogs, cats, goldfish, tune fish, salami sandwiches, simple clothes, private schools for children ( our children, really), living in the suburbs, art museums… she looked up. “It seems we like the same things,” she said. “The exact same thing, I said. I read the report titled “Psychology”. She was shy, avoided arguments wasn’t outspoken, a good mother type. “I’m glad you don’t drink or smoke,” she said. “I don’t. I don’t like to. Sometimes I have a beer, though.” “It doesn’t say so down here.” “Well, maybe I forgot to put it down.” I hoped she didn’t mind. We finished reading the report on each other. “We’re very much alike,” she said. Alice and I have been married for nine years now. We have three kids already, two boys and a girl. We live in the suburbs and listen to a lot of classical and Frankie Lame Records. The last time we had an argument must be too far back to remember. We agree on practically everything. She’s been a good wife, and. If I may say so, I’ve been a good husband. Our marriage is perfect. We’re getting divorced next month. I can’t stand it.

1. In what way is the story similar to your expectations? 2. Why do you think Alice and Frank asked Mr. Bleaucher to find a partner for them? 3. How would you explain Frank’s words: ”We agree on practically everything. She’s been a good wife and I’ve a good husband. Our marriage two couples are d is perfect. We’re getting divorced next month. I can’t stand it. 4. Have a group discussion: what is important in a relationship?   Text 9 Read the story The Two Marriages and say how the two couples are different from each other. Think of any happy couples you know. Discuss with your friend which is a more perfect marriage. Share your point of view with your friend on the first couple. Do you think they are happy? Think of the couple at the table. Compare the opinions of the two strangers. What do you think about their marriage? Are they happy? THE TWO MARRIAGES Mr. and Mrs. Child just do not think alike. “It’s too hot here,” he says. “No, it’s too cold,” she answer. “We are going to the country tomorrow,” Mrs. Child says. “No, we are not. We’re staying right here in the city,” Mr. Child says. The house is too small for her. It is too big for him. She wants to take up a trip. He wants to spend the money on a new car. She wants to have a garden. He says a garden is too much work. When his head hurts, her feet hurt. She wants to get to places early. He is always late. They have yet to find two things they both like. He loses everything. She finds it. She begins to read the newspaper when he has finished with it. He opens the window when he goes to bed. She closes the window when she gets up. She says,” Oh, dear. This dress costs too much, I can’t buy it.” He answers,” No, it doesn’t. I’ll give it to you for your birthday.” “Oh, I’m old and not pretty any more,” she cries. “Now, you seem as young and pretty as ever to me,” he says. “John,” she smiles. “You really do like me, don’t you?” ”No”, he laughs. “I love you.”      

A man and a woman were seated at a table in a crowded restaurant. The owner approached and inquired whether he might seat two men at their table. “Of course,” said the man. “We’d be delighted to have them sit. As the two men approached the table, the first stranger said, “Thank you. You are kind to let us sit here,” “Are you friends?” asked the second stranger. “Or have you just met?” “We know each other very well,” the man seated at the table answered. “This is my wife.” “Yes,” she sighed. “We have been married so long as we think alike, we act alike, and we are even beginning to look alike.” “We never argue,” remarked the husband. “We never fight,” said the wife. “We always know how the other person feels,” said the husband. “Many times we do not even need words to know what the other is thinking,” smiled the wife. “We seldom have a difference of opinion about which books are good, which movies are good, and even which people we like,” she continued. The two strangers looked at the man and the woman while they talked. The first stranger’s face was soft as he turned to the second stranger. “Are you not impressed with such love and kindness? I am sure they must be very happy. Perhaps they are the last of the truly happy husbands and wives.” The second stranger did not speak for a long time. Then he said, “I am nothing if I am not an honest man! But I am impressed with such harmony. Why have two? One of them is unnecessary."  

A man and a woman were seated at a table in a crowded restaurant. The owner approached and inquired whether he might seat two men at their table. “Of course,” said the man. “We’d be delighted to have them sit. As the two men approached the table, the first stranger said, “Thank you. You are kind to let us sit here,” “Are you friends?” asked the second stranger. “Or we think alike, we act alike, and we are even beginning to look alike.” “We never argue,” remarked the husband. “We never fight,” said the wife. “We always know how the other person feels,” said the husband. “Many times we do not even need words to know what the other is thinking,” smiled the wife. “We seldom have a difference of opinion about which books are good, which movies are good, and even which people we like,” she continued. The two strangers looked at the man and the woman while they talked. The first stranger’s face was soft as he turned to the second stranger. “Are you not impressed with such love and kindness? I am sure they must

V Decision Making 1. “ Of all our powers love is the highest, finest.” What’s your attitude to this idea? Find out other people’s opinions about it. Interview your groupmates, your teachers, one of your parents, your best friend and make your conclusion about the result. 2. Will you agree with the saying “Friends are thieves of our time”? and what about your classmates? Ask their opinions and summarize them. 3. Which statements would you agree with? - Romance and love are the same - Compatibility is more important than love - Love is not enough . Read the following item from a magazine.  

The recent study concluded that a girl’s good look is the most important for a young boy.

Do you think that all boys are attracted only by good looks?

Alex P., 19: “I still can’t resist a great-looking girl, but a pretty face doesn’t compare to a smart mind.”

Lloyd W., 19 :”Her body is something that would be attractive to me. That means she works out a lot, and doesn’t smoke, drink or do drugs, even if her friends are doing them.”

Kevin H., 23: “Initially a good-looking good girl catches my eyes. But if she doesn’t have a good personality, then forget it.”

Adam H., 18:” I’m attracted to girls who are down-to-earth and simple. Rude girls are ridiculous! If a girl I like acts mean and snobby to everyone, why should I be treated any different?”

Michael T., 20:” A good personality is more important to me than what a girl looks like because I want to be able to relax and have fun with her, like I would with my friends or my family.”

James C., 20:” A girl that shows interest in me attracts me. I don’t like girls who are only interested in talking about themselves.”

Work in pairs and discuss what boys in your group like most of all in girls.

Some people, it seems, would do just anything for their loved one…

Read the poem and say what things the author would do for his beloved girl.

SUNSHINE ON MY SHOULDERS

Sunshine on my shoulders makes me happy,

Sunshine in my eyes makes me cry.

Sunshine in the water looks so lively,

If I had a day that I could give your,

I’d give to you a day just like today.

If I had a song that I could sing for you,

I’d sing a song to make you feel this way.

If I had a tale that I could tell you,

I’d tell a tale sure to make you smile.

If I had a wish that I could wish for you,

I’d make a wish for the sunshine all the while.

Would you promise the moon to your loved one?

Read the conversation of two friends talking what they would do for loved one.

Ann: Betty, it seems incredible you’ve been with Pete for five years.

Betty: Can you believe it?

Ann: Yes, I know well, I remember you always used to say that you would do anything, now do you still think so?

Betty: Those were the early days you always say things like that.

Ann: Exactly, but I’m asking you how, five years on, would you do anything for him?

Betty: No, not anything obviously, there are things I would do, one just the other night, I said “forget it”. Like what? Like what? Give me an example.

Ann: OK right, now let’s think. Now, OK, he was wanted by the police, so would you lie to protect him?

Betty: Ohone. What about career, would you give up your career, if he wanted you to give up your job, would you do this?

Betty: No, why could he possibly want me to give it up? , it’d depend on the crime I think. If it was a traffic ticket, probably. But no, oh. Yes, I probably would actually even if it was a serious one isn’t that terrible? I just realized that about myself, yes, I probably would, unless, of course, he did something to me.

Ann: Right. OK, well, we’ll leave that

Ann: Well, I don’t know, say if he was feeling threatened by your success or something like that.

Betty: No, absolutely not.

Ann: But he might be (yes, he might be), what if he really wanted you to give up your career, would you?

Betty: Of course not. Not for that reason no, because that would break us eventually because of the resentment, I wouldn’t ask him to give up his career, unless he changed careers and I don’t know, became a hit man or something.

Ann: What about if he, say, if he found a new religion or something, that was completely obsessed with and he wanted you to convert.

VII Family is the only form of bringing children up. For centuries mankind couldn’t find any other form. Though the sex revolution flew over our country, people in Europe believe that family life is very important, they try to keep up family traditions. A group of researchers have come from Great Britain: reporter, sociologist, psychologist. They want to study family problems in Russia.  

English sociologist: British families are usually quite small. An average family consists of a mother, a father and two or three children. No one is really sure how it is possible to have four children. It is rare in GB for grandparents, aunts and uncles to share the house with the family. However, families often share the house with dogs, cats, goldfish and even rabbits, which they keep not to eat, but as pets. English reporter : First of all we decided to conduct a poll and ask Russian people several questions. Are you going to marry? What is the most acceptable age for marriage? How many children are you going to have? What personal traits make family life happier? We conducted a poll and drew up a diagram: 91% of our students are going to marry; 39% of the students consider that it is better to marry after the age of 22; 61% of our students consider that the age from 18 to 22 is the most acceptable age for marriage; 85% of our students are going to have two children; 15% of our students are going to have one child. Our students consider that such personal traits as tact, decency and honesty can make family life happier.   Russian sociologist: The Russian family is small too. An average Russian family consists of a father, a mother and one or two children. Let’s make acquaintance of the Ivanovs. This family consists of a father, a mother and a son. His name is Nick. He is 18. He is a student of a technical school and is doing well there. Let’s listen to what they are talking about.

сцена 1 Mrs. Ivanov: What a good son we have got! He doesn’t want to marry. He said that some of his friends were married and they said,” A wife usually complains,’ When we sit in the living room you always watch TV and never look at me. When we eat breakfast together you always read newspaper and never talk to me. When we go to parties you usually sit with your friends and rarely dance with me. And you are lazy. You never help me with the housework. When our windows are dirty you never wash them. When our car breaks down you never fix it. You never play with the kids. Sometimes I think you don’t love me’.” He thinks that it is not happy family life. Mr. Ivanov: But now he is feeling bad. He neither coughs nor sneezes. Yesterday he had a headache. The day before yesterday he complained of a toothache and an earache. Mrs. Ivanov: It’s a strange case. I’m sure he’s been working too hard lately. Last time I saw him he was pale and tired. It’s all nerves. Most likely he needs a rest and then he’ll be fine. Mr. Ivanov: As far as I can judge, pills, drops or mixtures are useless in this case. Mrs. Ivanov: What do you mean? Mr. Ivanov: It’s a virus. It’s as old as the hills. No medicine can help. It takes time to recover. I think he is in love. Nick: Helen, I do love you. Take my heart. I want to marry you. Helen : I accept .

Сцена 2 . Сын сообщает о своём решении жениться

Nick: Mother! I want to tell you something important.

Mother: What is it, dear?

Nick: I’m going to get married!

Mother: Get married? You must be joking!

Nick: Nothing of the kind. It’s my final decision. I’m not a child any more.

Mother: Good heavens! But you are only 18. I hope you are not serious.

Nick: Absolutely serious.

Mother: And who is that poor girl?

Nick: It’s Helen. You know her. She is the sweetest girl I ever met! I can’t see my life without her.

Mother: Oh, no! Helen is out of the question. She is too young. She can’t even cook, likes good clothes and doesn’t work yet. Your marriage is sure to fall on my shoulders.

Nick: Don’t worry. It’s not as bad as that. We are going to live with her parents.

Мать в отчаянии звонит своим подругам с просьбой прийти к ней и постараться переубедить сына.

Mother: Ann, dear, come to my place. My son is going to marry. What can we do? Kate, dear, come to my place. My son is going to marry. What shall I do ?

Приходят подруги матери .

Kate: Are you going to marry? Here are some facts from family statistics in Russia. Over 80% of women and 70% of men marry by the age of 25. At present, more than 40 out of every 100 marriages end in divorce. Every year about one million families break up. About 50% of divorced men remarry within a period of ten years, while only 25% of such women do so. Many young families have material difficulties. As a result young couples often have to rely on the assistance of their parents.

Ann: The housing shortage is another problem for many young families. Most young people don’t want to live together with their parents after they get married but about half of them have to do this. As a result these young people have no experience in family life. They don’t know how to run the house, how to manage the family budget, how to bring up children.

Nick: But we are going to the registry office in a week.

Сцена 4. В ЗАГСе . Registration clerk : Dear friends! Today is the happiest day in your life! I declare you husband and wife. Congratulate each other. Nick and Helen: Friends, we invited you to our wedding party. Registration clerk: I would like to give the floor to British scientists who study Russian family problems

Психологический тест.

Psychologist: We want to hold a humorous competition to find out who will be head of the family. The first round will be “Endearing words”. Nick and Helen, which of you can say more endearing words to each other? (angel, baby, baby doll, bud, buddy, ducky, honeybunch, kid, sweetheart, my dear, my precious).

Psychologist: The second competition will be between Nick’s and Helen’s parents. Whose parents will praise their child better? (He/She is attractive and hardworking; kind and strong-willed; modest and good-natured; week and gentle; handsome/lovely; warm-hearted; serious; a man of character.

Psychologist: The third round is called “Are you ready for family life?” nick’s guests will ask Helen their questions and Helen’s guests will ask Nick. (Name the day of the week when pupils don’t go to school; name the place where we cook; name the things we can make a salad with; name the things we can cook soup with; name the place we wash dishes; what do babies aiways eat for breakfast?)

Результаты подсчитывают и объявляют победителя.

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подготовили такие монологические высказывания

An Only Child.

I was one of the six children. I haves, and two younger brothers and three elder sisters. My father wasn’t a wealthy man and we lived in a three-bedroom house, so conditions at home were always quite cramped and there was little privacy. Yet I consider that I was extremely fortunate. The house was on the outskirts of a small town. Meadows, woods, and even a friendly stream lay within walking distance of our house. My mother and father were too busy to occupy themselves with my affairs, so the greater part of my upbringing was left to my sisters. If I am now a comparatively calm and placid person, able to cope tolerably well with those problems that life confronts us with, it is, I firmly believe, due to the fact that I was allowed to grow up without too much fuss being made of me. The most dreadful fate I can imagine would be growing up as an only child. All mothers and fathers experiment on their unfortunate firstborn. They read the latest baby books, they attend clinics and courses of lectures. They listen to the advice of maiden aunts. They debate the exact moment to start feeding solid food to the baby. What k…”they find extremely difficult to do is to allow their child to grow up at its own pace, to make its own mistakes and quietly learn from them. As soon as the second baby is on the way, the firstborn escapes this period of close attention. He begins to get away with things. He discovers that even if he does eat sandwiches with dirty hands, or unripe apples that have fallen from the tree, he may not be sick in the night. He acquires a sense of proportion regarding his own importance. But what happens to an only child? Never, or at least not until it is too late to do anything about it, does he or she escape from the minute examination of their every action. It is a miracle if they do not grow up a nervous person constantly worrying about their health, a self-centred being, who shivers at the sight of their own reflection in the mirror. I’d advise you to have two or more children.

Family History

My father was English, and my mother was Scottish. I visited Scotland not long ago with the desire to discover what I could about my Scottish ancestors. My grandmother’s name was Renton. Her husband, my grandfather, spent most of his working life in India. After he died she came back to Scotland and settled down with her sisters in an old village called Gullance. As a small boy, I went to the National Library in Edinburgh to find out if they had a copy. However, the visit was disappointing. But I could find no reference to my great grandfather’s book. I also knew that after my great grandfather had returned to Scotland from Canada, he had spent 20 years or more as Minister of Presbyterian Church in North Berwick and my grandmother had told me that he had 6 daughters, 5 of whom never married. On a beautiful sunny Saturday morning I drove from Edinburgh to North Berwick. I found somewhere to park and asked the way to the church. My mother had told me of the minister’s house and minister’s meadow, a small field, where my great grandfather had kept a few cows, and where my grandmother and her five sisters had played as little girls. But this was 70 years ago. The street was narrow and busy with Saturday afternoon shoppers. I walked along and suddenly there it was in front of me – St. Andrew’s Church. The main doors were locked, so I made my way to the back, found a small door that was open, let myself in and looked round the church. The sunshine flooded through the windows and shone upon the brass memorial plaques on the walls. But I looked in vain for the name Renton. Then it struck me that Renton was my grandmother’s married name. Before that her name was Sprott. Of course. No wonder I hadn’t been able to find my great grandfather’s book in the library. I looked again and soon I found a plaque “In memory of the Rev. George Washington Sprott, Minister of this kirk…” Behind the church, at the top of a small hill, the minister’s house still stood and between the house and the church lay, the small meadow where my grandmother used to play among the cows. There were no cows now, but in one corner, standing in the shade of a tree, was a hot, gray, bored-looking donkey gr. The following Monday I returned to the National Library in Edinburgh and there I found my great grandfather’s book. Reflection on the life of a Young Minister in Canada, by the Rev. George Washington Sprott. It was dedicated to “My children and their children’s children”. It’s a good thing to keep family history.

Family Daily Routines

It is not a bad idea to have a kind of division of labour at home when each person knows their daily household jobs. The children should keep their own rooms tidy, make their beds, set the table for meals, clear away the dishes and wash up. The mother should then concentrate on the more specialized jobs of cooking, washing, ironing and mending. It would be useless, however, if the children promise to help, and then failed to do their jobs, so that she constantly had to say: “I wish you’d make your bed, Carol. I’d like you to pick up all those toys from the floor, Bob. Shopping at the supermarket could be a kind of family outing, if they were all free at the right time and went together and helped to choose the goods and push the trolley. I would like you to divide household duties.

House and Home

A person’s home is as much a reflection of his personality as the clothes he wears, the food he eats and the friends he spends his time with. Depending on personality, how people see themselves and how they allow others to see them, most have in mind an ‘ideal home’. But in general, and especially for the students or new wage earners, there are practical limitations of cash and location on the way of achieving that idea. Cash shortage, in fact, often means that the only way of getting along when you leave school is to stay at home for a while until things improve financially. There are obvious advantages to living at home: personal laundry is usually done along with the family wash, meals are provided and you pay a minimum rent if any. On the other hand, much depends on how a family gets on. Do your parents like your friends? Are you ready to be tolerant when your parents ask where you are going in the evening and what time you expect to be back? If you don’t like the idea ofa living with the family the possibilities are well-known to you already. You can find a good landlady and rent a room till you make enough money to buy a flat or a house of your own. Most families in Britain live in their own houses, rather than in flats. The houses are not always very big, and they are often built very close together. You may want to live in a detached house or in a semidetached house. Many people live in so-called terraced houses, usually two-storeyed, that are in a long line, connected to each other. Each entry here belongs to one owner and is considered to be a house.

Family is sacred to everybody. I hope you will have good families, keep family traditions, be tactful and tolerant and take care of each other. There is an old tradition in Great Britain: if you catch the bride’s bunch of flowers, you will marry soon .