Видео-урок "Управляй собой"

Managing Impulsivity

• Wow, that was a good book!

• You read that superfast!

• That’s because I’m sitting in  a lucky red chair.
  A good thing’s I have another book on my desk!

• I’ll be right back.
  
  

• Hey, Maria!  You’re in my chair! I need you to move.

• It’s not your chair. It’s a classroom chair.

• But I wasn’t done with it. I just got up to get another book.

• We have to take turns, Chris.

• That’s not fair, it’s still my turn.

• And I wasn’t done too.

• No, get out of my chair! I just got up to get another book.

• Chris, Maria, what’s going on?

• Miss Flowers, Maria won’t get out of my chair.

• Chris, why don’t you sit in the yellow or blue chair?

• I don’t want to sit in those.

• When you came back and saw Maria was in the red chair, did you ask her politely if you could have it back?

• No, I told her she was in my chair and she had to get out!

• Oh, you were being impulsive.
  Chris, the chairs belong to us all.
  We have to learn how to take turns and share them. And that means letting others have their turns as well.

• But it’s my favourite! ‘

• You’re upset, but telling Maria she has to give that chair back to you isn’t the right way to talk to her.
  You are not managing your impulsivity.

• Managing my impulsivity?
  How do I do that?

• By stopping and thinking before you do or say something.
  Here! Let’s try it right now.
  When you came back and saw Maria was in the red chair, what happened?

• I told her I wanted the red chair back and that she had to move.

• Mmm, that was being impulsive.

• Oh, it was?

• Yes, you reacted to seeing Maria in the chair without thinking about what you were doing first.
  Now, imagine you and Maria traded places and she ran up to you and told you to move.
  How would you feel?

• Hey, Chris, that’s my chair,  I need you to move, .  

• I would be upset because I was already sitting there.

• What would you tell Maria?

• I would tell her that we have to take turns and share.

• Sound familiar?

• Mm-hmm

• When you rushed up and told Maria to move, you didn’t stop and take the time to think about what you were doing, you’re being impulsive.

• Oh.

• Now, think how you could react differently next time.

• Hmm.

• I can tell by that smile that you must have thought of something much better to say.
  Tell Maria what you’d say next time.

• Hey, Maria, the red chair is my favourite. May I have it back when you’re done?

• Of course.   I only sat here because Peter was in my favourite chair, the green one.

• Puss in Boots, whoever heard of a cat in clothes. That’s just silly.

• Now, wasn’t that much easier that fighting over it?

• Managing  impulsivity was much easier!

• And by managing your impulsivity you’re also able to talk to Maria like a friend, instead of being demanding and rude.

• Mm-hmm, I did.

• Excellent!
  Now, Chris, can you tell me what you’ve learned from this?

• There I should stop and think about what I say before I say.

• When we manage our impulsivity it gives us time to make sure our words are helpful and not hurtful.

• Stop, think, act!

• That’s it!

• I’m sorry for being impulsive about the chair, Maria.

• It’s OK, Chris. Thank you for apologizing.

• You know my book is really funny.
  Want to read it with me?

• Sure.   (Chris and Maria are laughing).

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